Trusting people is taught as if it’s an art.
But, we don’t need to learn how to trust someone.
The way human brains are designed, we are meant to trust people.
We trust doctors that they’ll cure us. We trust a plumber that they’ll fix the shower.
Society runs on trust, and only a few take advantage of the others.
During our early years, we have our parents or siblings to trust that they’ll protect us when we’re in trouble.
As we grow up, our problems become complex; the world around us feels like a car engine to a new driver who can’t figure out why is smoke coming out.
Why can’t trust be taught?
The world has gone through plenty of scams, many governments that outright lied to their people, relationships that destroyed the meaning of the word trust for people and companies that we trusted laid people off or didn’t pay them on time.
After all of this, we believed it at face value whenever something new came.
The cycle repeated throughout history, and people were again scammed, cheated and left.
And that didn’t stop us from trusting people either.
We just developed a screening process of sensing BS from far away. We became more sceptical and built a defence wall.
If history is any lesson, there will be instances where our trust will be broken, and we’ll become sceptical, but eventually, we’ll learn to do it once again.
That’s our zero point, the middle of the spectrum.
No matter which extreme of the spectrum we are on, we’ll always fall back to the middle and trust people eventually.
Hope is the fuel that runs the trust.
During this social media era where people start mixing chocolate with noodles, it’s understandable that people can be psychopaths and are not easy to trust.
Jokes apart, stop doing that wannabe food influencer. You’re doing no good to humanity.
We run on hope. It’s the only fuel that keeps us going and helps us wake up every morning.
Trust and hope are related.
When we trust someone, we’re also hoping that they won’t screw us over.
If we gave a part of ourselves to them, they wouldn’t dump it in the trashcan the moment we’re not around.
When we join a new company, we’re trusting them with many things; that they’ll provide us value, that they’ll pay us on time, that they won’t treat us shit and that they won’t expect us to work 30 hours a day when there are only 24. The corporate clock sucks. I know.
At times, culture plays a big part in how we are conditioned to trust people.
Culture plays a significant role.
Here in India, we’ve been taught not to talk to strangers. Hidden meaning? They’re not trustworthy.
I’m sure this is the case in many countries.
Generally, the world around us, the media, society, and social media has made us feel that this world is one big chaotic ball of fire and nothing good is happening here.
So, no wonder that people don’t trust their family and friends at times.
Internet is an incredible place.
People distrust other people, but when they want to buy something online, they read other customers’ reviews and verify if the product is legit or not.
One scam email can take away all your money and scar you forever to use an email.
Yet it can also help you make so much money that you can’t even count.
It all depends on which side of the story you stand.
Dystopia sounds intellectual
Veterans and experts like to make predictions where nothing is right. The economy is failing; the people are fighting over the littlest things, stock marketing dipping deeper than Mariana Trench and more.
We might not buy what they say, but it sounds true for some reason.
If someone says that the economy of India will fall by 3% in the next two years, its auto industry will collapse due to rising prices, and people will fight due to lack of water, people will believe it.
But suppose the same person predicts that its economy will grow by 5%. That its auto industry will see a boom, every city will match the west in cleanliness, and the rockets made in India will beat everyone in the world; people might start calling that person names.
It’s hard to believe the positive instincts.
The media likes to create this sense of dystopia among the people as if everything will eventually fall apart.
It’s good for the business; it lets the governments and institutions come across someone who can be trusted.
It created a sense among people that they are the ones the be trusted, and they’ll be the saviour who’ll get us out of this dystopia.
Create a problem, then create a solution.
Classic playbook example.
So, no matter what people say, no matter how much you distrust people, at some point, you’ll trust someone or something, and it’ll be a blessing or a cruse.
But you’ll learn a lot.