I will start with a story. ‘Cause everyone loves a goddamn story, no?
So, I was in a park, minding my own business like usual. There were a few volunteers who were picking out the plastic wrappers and bottles from the park and then, there were 3 men in their late forties or early fifties. They had one good look at the volunteers and said, “oh yeah, this is all useless, they’re doing it just for the pictures, publicity, and social media and criticised the local minister”.
That’s because they thought these volunteers might have been hired by the minister for good PR and stuff. I overheard all of this because they were talking loud. Someone sitting in London could have heard them.
But I talked to the volunteers and helped them too. They told me they were from an NGO and they came from different parts of India for a cleaning campaign in Delhi, which was pretty great.
So that gave me an insight.
I realized that it’s easy to bash at someone’s efforts while being a gossip slot machine in the park hitting jackpot every time they opened their mouth.
I remember a quote by Brownell Landrum – Surprises are everywhere in life. And they usually come from misjudging people for being less than they appear.Brownell Landrum, Repercussions: DUET stories Volume IV – Adult Version
It’s quite easy to not know something and comment on it. It’s easy to look at someone with glasses and flat hair and call them a nerd. It’s easy to call out people without giving a thought. It’s easy to sit in front of the TV with your 10th beer in hand and calling out professionals players for not playing well. Yup, that’s what pros care about.
It’s easy to not pause for a minute and speak up. It’s easy to give up. It’s easy to procrastinate. It’s easy to be rude to someone. It’s easy to lose patience.
I believe all terrible habits come naturally to us. That’s why they come out as reflexes, without a thought. I don’t think I’m an alien to this, I have done this too. After all, I’m born in this society but I try to be contemplative.
Those men made me realise that no matter how good you are, or how well you’re doing, you’ll never be good enough for some people. At some point in life, all of us have tried to impress someone. Seems pointless. Those who are good will appreciate your goodness. Others will bad-mouth you no matter how good your intentions are.
But also, doing anything helpful just for the sake of approval or validation also nullifies the whole point of the act. Do it and forget about it.
You can’t grow a muscle without being persistent. That’s how you build and learn. You work hard on a habit, practicing it enough that it comes naturally to you. The same way you can practice not judging someone too soon, with zero knowledge about something.
It’s easy to be a jerk, it takes a little bit of a learning curve to be thoughtful.♥️