Can we skip to the good part?

Buckle up. Grab a cup of hot chocolate and be seated because you might need it.

We can skip to the good part, but we shouldn’t. Lemme tell you why. 

We’ll start living and chasing just the good moments of life if we keep skipping to the good part. You know, excessive positivity and not allowing any other emotion to pop up. Yes, negative emotions can take a toll on our mental health in the long term, but living to make just the good memories can nullify the whole point of, you know, living. 

What does it depict? 

If you’re not living under a rock, you might have seen reels on this song where people transition from an untidy room in pyjamas to a lavish location in Hawaii or Goa for some reason. Or they sleep on their bed but wake up in a 5-star hotel room with 10 cuisine breakfast that they can’t even pronounce.

Skipping to the good part is like magic. It looks good, we’re impressed but it’s an illusion. An illusion of perfection.

Yes, they’re skipping to the good part. On social media. In reality, they might have had a flat tire, a lousy dinner, a pigeon might have pooped on their head and many more problems that didn’t make it to the 10 seconds highlight.

I believe that’s the pinnacle of Instagram being a platform for showing off immense success, people buying expensive shit on EMI to gain validation, over the top travel stories sharing, and everything made up of emotions so high that the cocaine addict neighbour feels jealous. 

If it were in our hands, we’d jump from one happy moment to the other without feeling any other negative emotion because how can you be sad and be on Instagram? Go cry on a reality show or something.

As far as I can remember, I’ve NEVER clicked on the reels button intentionally, which Instagram strategically put in the middle. 

Sometimes, funny dog videos keep me hooked when I accidentally click on it. Eighteen hours later, I find myself in a half-sleeping and sitting position, watching a golden retriever catching a treat in the air. “Yes, who’s the good boy? You’re a good boy. You’re a good boy.” 

Who am I kidding? The most brilliant minds on the planet are constantly working to keep us hooked on its app and suck out every second of our waking hours. Are we going to win against it? Not collectively. We’re social beings; we live on validation and feel good messages. 

So, as once that scuba instructor said, let’s dive deep. 

Why it’s terrible? 

The first reason it’s terrible is that many of you will land on this article through Instagram, so that’s a huge irony there. 

Secondly, as if we weren’t already skipping to the good part, it was an unsaid thing on social media. But just like that couple who were too scared to accept their feeling initially, it got exclusive. 

A trip would turn into a tiring photography session. And what happens when we click too many pictures? This is something I learned from a video by Johnny Harris. Watch here

Our visual senses get the most of the experience when we do that, and others don’t. So we don’t remember how that place felt, what the surroundings smelled like.

Imagine you’re in the Himalayas, it’s evening, you have noodles, listening to lo-fi music with your friends trying to watch the sunset, but as soon as the sky gets beautiful, you pull out your camera, start recording and clicking pictures. 

Years later, when you try to remember that trip, you’ll remember the visuals of the trip but not what you felt during that moment, things about your surrounding. Your visual sense got a treat, but the earthy rustic smell in the environment, it’ll be hard to remember. 

We can’t just not take our cameras out. We’re not lunatics. So, it’s a game of balance. When you visit a new place or a sunset point, be mindful of it. Click a few pictures, and then keep your cameras inside. You’ll thank yourself for having this wholesome experience and not living for the gram. 

As they say, if every day is extraordinary, nothing will be extraordinary. 

Yes, we need a trip every 2-3 months, maybe even earlier. With the amount of information we’re bombarded with, we’re now definitely in more need of breaks. Read here how to take more breaks from social media.

Competition on steroids

Our parents got a high when they compared us with the neighbour’s kid who scored well in the exam. “Sharma ji ka ladka” (random neighbour’s son) was the gold standard for comparison. They threw all of their excellent qualities on our faces. We’re no less than the generation before. 

The only difference is we now don’t look at the neighbour kid or a successful person, society or a community. Now we’re looking at it on a global level. 2000s are all about scaling up.

Professionals sharing their creativity, people with enough disposable income to travel the world all year are our competition now. So we wake up, and we see that someone’s getting married after starting 3 new business last week, adopting 3 dogs & a python and there we are in a dilemma if waking up is even worth it or not.

No matter how hard we try, we can’t stop competing. And when the competition reaches a global level, there’s no end to this, except for the people who’re content with average, basic. 

Average doesn’t feel less than a curse word now. But, as long as we’re surrounded by extraordinary, fake it till you make it will be our motto. 

Aligning our values 

Of course, not everyone wants to live in a mansion so big that you have to install AirTags on everyday objects of the house, but it all boils down to what we value. 

If you are living a simple life, then the glamour of Instagram won’t affect you. However, if you like numbers and growing Is the key, there’s no end to what number exactly will provide you satisfaction. If scrolling through memes all day is what you want; kudos! Go for it. 

If you’re creative and like to share your work, perfecto

If money, social media fame is what you’re after, it’s the perfect platform. (Yeah, as if you were waiting for me to validate it.) 

No life is fulfilling. Nobody’s having a more fantastic time than you. Social media is a desert, and all we’re looking at is a mirage, an illusion. Believing that there’ll be contentment, fulfilment, and satisfaction if we get what they got. But that’s just empty calories for our souls. 

Soon we realise, it is better for all of us. 

Will you skip to the good part?

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