The confidence paradox

The confidence. Or lack thereof.

People with half-truths are far more confident than those aware of all the sides of a story.

What mind trick is it? Or is it something natural?

As my favorite quote goes, “fools and fanatics are always so confident of themselves and wise people so full of doubts.”

You must have seen online when something controversial happens; the netizens prepare themselves for war. (insert intense music) 

A war where everyone will have the metaphorical and moral high ground. 

Then they take their weapons out. Cracking knuckles, a sturdy keyboard, CAPS ON and writing until their fingers are hurt, or they lose the argument (which won’t happen to anyone.

And lastly, the most brilliant strategy of online arguments; shouting and imposing opinions while wearing extreme noise-canceling headphones. 

So how does this war end? Everyone’s a winner, gets a participation trophy and a little yellow smiley on their ego. Isn’t it just cute? 

Everybody goes home feeling superior until the subsequent controversy arrives. Until then, these people will dive back into their cave, dipping their fingers in hot water to cure the soreness.

What makes us confident?

We now give opinions like that dog owner who can’t stop giving treats for no fucking reason. Someone’s validation is enough to fuel out more views like the previous one, making them stronger and more rigid.

We open an app, and boom, an idea is shared. Some write a tweet, and others make a video titled: “why this matters, listen to my views and agree with it because I’m the influencer, and you’ve come here to get influenced. So do your goddamn job.”

And the one thing we are pretty good at is finding like-minded people who make all our wrongs right and validate our thoughts. 

It doesn’t take much longer to find a like-minded chicken nugget swallower, and they’re there, waiting to be discovered. Or taken out of their basement. Whatever. 

After that, a cult-like organization starts, and thus begins the “US VS THEM.” We get separated like oil and water. 

The mind factory 

Our brain is divided into two parts. One is responsible for your feelings, intuitions, and judging-in-a-look kind of things, and the other is more complicated and takes some effort to activate it to look at the problem logically. 

So, naturally, we’re always on auto-pilot. We all believe we are on the right side of the controversy because if we don’t categorize it as black and white, we’ll go crazy. Oversimplification is the basic need of humans, and why ask questions when you can assume and create havoc. 

When we consume news items, we read the same news from different sources, clicking clickbait articles and fueling up our rage on the go. 

That information is just an echo that reaches everybody’s ears quite differently. 

You can predict that the news about The Rock eating 500 raw eggs in the morning can lead to questioning the authenticity of the article dividing the gym people and lazy people more than India and Pakistan.

So they lash back at the report with their high-on-steroids opinions, randomly shouting to online avatars. 

With people getting more exposed to the internet, it’s getting difficult to keep the opinions in our pants. I have a weird habit of reading comments on posts, and I can’t help but wonder how people have made things on Instagram such a big deal that their life indeed revolves around it. 

So, the side of the brain responsible for feelings and shit just started pouring out these nasty comments on the internet. If people would use more logic and believe that it isn’t real life but a small part of it, they’d be more sensitive and might realize that their words can have a real-life impact. 

But then again, who am I kidding. This is the internet. No matter what you do, you can’t make everyone happy, and you aren’t a cheesecake.

The more absurd views someone presents, more confident they are and less they are aware of all the sides that balances out things in their mind. That’s what paradox of confidence is.

Don’t be a cheesecake but don’t be the pineapple on the pizza as well. 

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