Yes! That seems kind of common today. We take offence very easily. And whose offence do we take? Narrow minded, small, insecure people who can’t see other person’s growth and success. They really don’t feel much good about themselves so they make other’s feel bad by being judgemental, rude and as we have the classic quality of taking offence, we tend to feel bad about ourselves. We even start analyzing ourselves and start focusing on our own flaws. Let’s be real. When they made you feel miserable, they enjoyed. They laughed behind your back. Their ego boosted. They felt good about themselves.
DO NOT TAKE ANYONE’S JUDGEMENT SERIOUSLY.
Because whatever you’ll do, even if it’s some good deed there will be one person who will still judge you, you don’t need that. It’s better to absorb the shitty comments via one ear and let it out via another. Don’t let it stay in between. Do whatever that makes you feel good. Anything that satisfies you. A famous quote says:
“BE YOURSELF. PEOPLE DON’T HAVE TO LIKE YOU, AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO CARE.”
As they say, Confident is silent. Insecurities are loud. Yes they are. Since ages, its been You vs Them. Never take any judgement because what you’ve been through, what you have faced, they haven’t. They don’t know about you. If you have any such kind of person in your life, throw them out ASAP. They won’t let you grow.
But you’ll definitely find some people who will help you let grow. Who will celebrate your success. With whom you’d be comfortable. You’ll feel it from their genuine vibes. Trust them. Energy never lies. Those people are worth keeping.
We should also keep in mind that we should also not be judging others if we don’t like others doing that to us. No double standards or hypocrisy. Be the change you wish to see. If judging is very wrong and you don’t like it, start by changing yourself. Let people be, there must be a reason. Judging and being judged are two sides of same coin. Both are wrong and brings out no good but results in chaos.
And the insecure people? What about them? Whenever they pass a judgement, smile and move on. If it annoys you, give your best shot. They won’t learn from that but surely that will make YOU feel good. A famous quote by Dale Carnegie says-
“ANY FOOL CAN CRITICIZE AND CONDEMN AND COMPLAIN- AND MOST FOOLS DO. BUT IT TAKES CHARACTER AND SELF CONTROL TO BE UNDERSTANDING AND FORGIVING.”